On Tickling and Massages and Kissing

Notes from (me) on On Kissing,Tickling and Being Bored by Adam Phillips.

These violent delights have violent ends,
And in their triumph die like fire and powder,
Which as they kiss consume.

Friar Laurence in Romeo and Juliet


He mooches around in his mind for more to say, but to his own surprise he is blank, so I offer him a suggestion: "When people kiss they've stopped talking. If her kisses were words, what would the be saying to you?" "You really can't love someone that you don't love kissing," he replies as though oblivious to my question. (93)

Freud: narcissistic inetent, desire to kiss ones own mouth, the mouth as a seeker, and the kiss as inevitably unsatisfactory, but also an end in itself.

hmmm...